Article: An Autopoietic Conflict Model (English)
I hope that it is now absolutely clear that conflicts are not external phenomena. The conflict arises and is resolved only in the person himself. This of course seems very counterintuitive. Every reader knows the situation in his or her past, with the best intentions, love or what you have tried that the other person remained, aloof and difficult and tedious and unable to deal with the situation. There is a tendency to think that as you want it good and another person did not just get it, it is his fault. However, when conflict is about solving the own internal conflicts, the other party does not play any role. Over hem you need to worry. The other party in the conflict also has an internal conflict. The latter is not your problem, but his. The reactions of the other party in the conflict, you know now, are not about you, but only about himself.